Great. Thank you for bestowing unto me the curse of all women. I heard these words not too long ago when I was complaining about being tired and busy, and the prophesy is so far, so true.
We all know that women are tired, overwhelmed, ragged and bedraggled because we are those women. We feel like we may never catch up on all the duties we have to do. Then we look over at the woman next-door who gets her hair done every week and always has freshly polished toes. Resist the urge to look down at your own cracked feet, trust me it won’t help.
Life does not slow down for us, we’ve all learned that lesson. So instead we run behind it chasing it frantically.
So enough ranting, we’re tired, what are we going to do about it?
I know I take on too many commitments. I can never say no. But what if each commitment seems like it is God’s will? If each one is too good to pass up?
Maybe instead of taking on all of these tasks because I feel that they are God’s will, I am taking them on for selfish reasons. To cover my backside and make sure that I am doing enough to enter the kingdom of heaven, to look good in front of my peers, to stay busy because maybe if I don’t I will feel alone.
Sounds like the solution is the d-word: discernment.
Ehhh. I shiver every time I hear it. Maybe because I don’t know how to do it right, maybe because I’m afraid at what I might find if I actually do it. Either one, it scares me.
But when choosing which activities are necessary, discernment definitely comes into play. After examining and purifying our motives for doing things, we need to take a close look at which ones we are doing for God and which ones he is actually asking of us.
As women, we can’t take everything on. Part of what makes us true women is being available and present for our friends and family when they need us. This is difficult when we overwhelm ourselves with too many obligations.
Instead of being there to comfort a friend in need, we are caught up in the details, groups, projects and tasks we have to do. We become “Martha’s” instead of being Mary sitting at Jesus’ feet. Instead of loving God and our neighbor, we turn into the Pharisees that are so worried about keeping up appearances.
So what do we do? Abandon those who are counting on us? Give up all of our good ideas that we think are from God? Quit?
I know I also need to realize that in some ways, I’m replaceable. As humbling as it is, there are many other people who could do the jobs I do. There are other people who could volunteer in my ministry, take on that project at work, and run the school event.
As humbling as it is, it’s quite freeing. God isn’t calling me to be everything for everyone.
God knows where your time is best spent, and he is waiting to tell you. Maybe it will involve giving up that idea you had, sacrificing a little bit of reputation, even looking like a quitter. But that time will be so much better spent when you are available to help that friend, daughter, or sister who needs you.
God will always provide for us and give us his desires and our own. But only if we drop everything and humbly ask him what his plan for today is. Because last time I checked, neither of our plans involved being that matty-haired, over-tired, crazy woman with too many things to do.
Sit down, steep a cup of tea (it’s been way too long) and ask God what he desires from you. Then resist that temptation to take on another bake sale. They can always find someone to make cookies, but the people in your life could never find another you.