“Hey Girl. You are loved.”
If I were a Ryan Gosling meme, that’s what I’d say to all of the single ladies out there, because that’s what every woman longs to hear, and what she deserves to hear. I know that life is not always easy for the single Christian girl. It’s difficult to be an outcast in the secular world that we live in, and it’s arduous to be seen as the quirky girl with “hang-ups” just because you believe in sexual integrity and modesty.
I can relate to you all you single ladies out there, because I am “that girl.”
I know what it’s like to be ridiculed by family and friends simply because you are striving to live a life of virtue. I know what it’s like to spend Valentine’s Day with friends, because you’re holding out for true love. And know what it’s like to spend a Friday night at home alone, because you’re not up for battling the corruption of the world and the guys who are out trying to “get some.”
Being a single Christian girl isn’t easy and sometimes it can be really lonely. But, it’s often in the darkest places that the most beautiful things are revealed.
Beyonce got it right when she said, "All the single ladies, put your hands up!" There is something uniquely beautiful about being a single, sassy, and lovely lady, and we should celebrate that. This is a chapter in our lives that we should cherish, because no other part of our life will be quite like it. During this time, we should raise our hands and praise God for this time to grow and prepare for our true vocation.
Little girls dream of their wedding day and look forward to the days of white picket fences, a husband who loves them, and the beautiful fruit of their marriage – children. But, our eyes must be fixed on God, not on white picket fences and the dreams of our prince who is yet to come.
It is during this time of singlehood, that God leads us on a journey of self-discovery and challenges us in a unique way. He challenges us to be better people and forms us into the best version of ourselves before He reveals our vocation.
Women are called to different vocations, at various stages in life. Some women marry young, others marry well into their 40s or beyond. Other women join religious orders in their teens, others later in life. And some women are called to dedicate their lives to God through a life of singlehood.
As single women, it can be difficult not to get discouraged at times. But – God will bring beauty from any pain that we feel and He will bless our sacrifices during this time. Have faith in God’s plan and in His timing, and pray for whatever vocation your future may hold. Don’t bask in the stress, anxiety, or loneliness; challenge yourself to be a better person and use this time to prepare yourself for the life ahead of you.
Spend time building on the relationships that you have with your family and friends. Make an effort to spend time with other single, discerning women; these are your sisters in Christ and they will be your strength and they can offer guidance and support. Take time for yourself; find a new hobby, get involved in community activities, or travel. Go do something that you’ve always wanted to do, but that you never made time for. Life changes on a whim, so take this opportunity to do something interesting and unique because you have the availability to do so right now.
Be steadfast in your beliefs and have faith that God is preparing your heart and your life for your true vocation, as the journey to your vocation is just as important as the destination.
Be a strong, discerning single lady, and recognize that this time is a gift from God.
Every woman desires to be loved and cherished. In our heart of hearts, we long to have a charming prince come to our rescue and whisk us away to a castle where we will raise our beautiful family.
But, as you spend this time discerning your vocation, always remember that you are loved. It may be difficult to feel that way at times, especially when you are feeling alone and up against the world. But, you are beloved, forever and always, by God our Father; the very first man who loved you.