.- A new website for women âfrom the men who love themâ encourages women to âdemand their dignityâ and attacks the âincessant, often conflictingâ messages and âliesâ about womenâs worth.
The site Demand Your Dignity says âenough is enoughâ to messages that depict women as a âcollection of body parts.â
âDemand that men rise up and BE MEN! Demand to be treated as the whole person YOU ARE!â the site tells women.
The site says it was made by men âwho want to love women, not use them.â Demand Your Dignity characterizes itself as a âpleaâ to women not to believe the âliesâ the world says about them and not to give up hope.
âYou arenât alone anymore. We are fighting with you.â
Kelsey Doherty, a creator of Demand Your Dignity, spoke about the site in a Friday e-mail interview with CNA.
Doherty, who works in digital media design, told CNA that his âpassionâ is his youth group and spreading âthe truth of Christâs love.â The idea for the site arose out of what he called an âoverwhelming needâ for the message of chastity.
âThe sexualization of popular culture and media is destroying entire generations of young people,â he said, explaining he meant not only abortion but also the âmore subtle damageâ men and women face because of pressure to fit âsexualized gender molds.â
He charged that pornography has enabled men âto seek only their own needs,â and that women are worse off because of the idealization of âa certain body type and sexual attitude.â
Doherty said he was aware of the problem but didnât take action until such issues affected a friend.
âNo girl should ever hate themselves and think they are not good enough because the cover of a Cosmo magazine tells them so,â he explained. âThe sexual revolution let the cat out of the bag. Any fantasy you can think of is not only available, but condoned.â
The answer to the âpainâ some women are in is âChrist-like, selfless men,â Doherty claimed. If men can deny temptation, he said, âthe whole mechanism will come to a crashing halt.â
The site was made for those who âdesperately yearn for true loveâ but have a âskewed view of chastityâ and wouldnât dare go to a âcrazyâ church or Chastity.com, the website of Catholic Answersâ chastity outreach program.
âDemandyourdignity.com is an effort to reach out specifically to those people,â he said.
The site presents existing resources in âa more flashy, engaging way,â he added. There are essays by Crystalina Evert, Wendy Shalit and Stasi Eldredge and videos such as the Dove Corporationâs âOnslaught,â in which the transformation of an ordinary woman into a digitally-altered supermodel is documented at high speed.
Other videos include presentations by chastity speaker Jason Evert and media analyst Jean Kilbourne.
âJason Evert and Wendy Shalit have both been in contact with me and really appreciate demandyourdignity.com and what the site is doing,â Doherty reported.
CNA noted that the site says it is âmade by real menâ and asked Doherty who those âreal menâ are.
He said they are âtons of menâ passionate about the issue of chastity and positive images of women.
âWe are college students, high school students, middle school students, post-grads, husbands, fathers, and priests. What sets us apart is that we won't stand for this any longer, and we have a lot to say,â he explained. âAnd thatâs the beauty of it. Just by making our presence known we can have a huge effect on women.â
Doherty reported that he had encouraged men to write letters of encouragement to women and was âso surprisedâ by the response.
âThese men poured their hearts. They weren't writing to specific women, but any women. And the response from the women was even more remarkable,â he said.
The âLetters to Womenâ project spawned a Facebook group named âWe will not stand by while women are treated like objects ITS [sic] TIME TO FIGHT.â
âWhat I hope to do is just provide these men with a means to express themselves loudly and give them the tools to fight back,â Doherty told CNA.
The Demand Your Dignity website is at http://demandyourdignity.com.