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Kate Bryan is a 32-year-old woman who has chosen to save sex for marriage.

In an op-ed published today in the Washington Post, Bryan says she is happy with her decision, because it allows her to live “the feminist dream.”


“I spend all day, every day doing the things that I want to do, because I’m not wasting my time worrying about waking up next to a stranger, contracting a sexually transmitted infection or missing a period,” she wrote.

“The truth is, I am able to live the feminist dream because I’m not stressing over the things that sex outside of marriage often brings. And I’m not alone.”

While there are likely many factors, a recent study from the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that millennials are having less sex than previous generations.

For Bryan, her lifestyle and views are inspired by her Catholic faith.

Having first heard of choosing chastity in high school, Bryan said her concept of abstaining from sex before marriage evolved from a simple “list of do’s and don’ts” to a much deeper understanding of what it means to truly love another person. She even based her college thesis on St. John Paul II’s book, “Love and Responsibility.”

While Bryan says that she does still hope to marry someday, she said her choice to live chastely allows her to live her life in freedom.

“While I didn’t get my early marriage or my 12 kids or my big house with a white picket fence, my commitment to sexual integrity has allowed me the freedom to live the life that I want. I am living the life that feminists throughout history fought for.


Through the virtue of chastity — true freedom and the perfection of love — I am living the feminist dream.”

Click here to read Kate Bryan’s full op-ed on chastity.