April 27, 2009

The Way Things Are Meant to Be…

By Rusty Montgomery *

"I am the way the truth and the life" – John 14:6

Have you ever experienced something and thought to yourself: "This is the way things were meant to be?" Last weekend my triplet sister got married. The weekend came and went very quickly, but when I look back and hear others talk about their experience of the day I can’t help but rejoice at what happened: The expression of love, the commitment to Jesus and the Church, the celebration and support of friends and family, and the promise of a new life together. It was the way things were meant to be. During the dinner at the reception I had a friend come up to me and say that this was his third wedding that he had been to this month. You can imagine how he felt about that! But he said this wedding was different. He exclaimed, "they did it right…and you can just tell by the witness they are to all of us." He was so right. I think my sister and her new husband Brian have a lot to teach us. And not only them, as there are many couples today who love one another and prepare for marriage in the right way. It shows us that there is a way that things were meant to be.

Yesterday a friend asked me what I thought chastity was. I remember during my college years when I heard chastity described as, "living rightly." What a thought! I am one who tends to think that we talk about chastity and sexuality sometimes in complicated ways and so to make the concept simple makes sense to me. Living rightly. If we think about life in this way, the whole notion of chastity goes so much further than just being in a relationship with a person of the opposite sex. Living the virtue of chastity is choosing to live rightly in all areas of our life, with our whole body and whole soul working together to be who God calls us to be.

There is a lot we can learn by understanding that we are called to live in right relation to one another and thinking about those examples in our life where we see this lived out. Jesus came to show us how to live rightly and how make choices in our lives according to the way He wanted things to be. How do we live rightly in our families? How do we live rightly among our relationships and friendships? How to we live right within our communities of school, work places, and society? Most importantly, how do we live rightly with Jesus and His Church?

Just imagine, from the very beginning of time that God had a dream of how He wanted things to be, how He wanted us to live. It is good to remind ourselves that we do not live in a random place that is left alone by the one who created us all. What great news that is! God created us to live with Him, and He sent His Son to show us the way. His Son then gave us the Church to reveal Himself and give us what we need to live rightly. So often we look at the Church as the body that pushes its rules on us and takes away our fun and freedom. If we could see it a gift, oh how helpful it really could be! Then we’d have our families, friends, communities, and hopefully all of society to be a reflection and guide to show us how to live according to God’s plan. We can see it in marriage, true friendship that seeks the good of the other, relationships that are healthy and based on growth in faith and in love and also we see it as strangers in our world living in true brotherhood, taking care of one another and make sure the needs of all are being met. Let us rejoice in the way things are suppose to be! Let us rejoice when we see people truly living rightly!

This week, as we continue to celebrate the Easter season let us give thanks every moment we choose to live rightly. May God be blessed and praised for Brian and Katie as they are a witness to us all reflecting to us living life they way it is meant to be. My dear sister and new brother, I love you dearly!

May we all take a second to realize that there is a gift being offered to us right at this moment. The gift to live life as it was meant to be.


God Bless You,


Rusty is a seminarian at St. Gregory the Great Seminary in Seward, Nebraska and is the co-founder of Live Greater Ministries. The ministry's aim is to invite the youth of the Church into a dialogue about the present culture and how Jesus invites us to a relationship with him, finding true happiness and greater purpose.  More information can be found on their website at www.livegreater.net.

* Catholic News Agency columns are opinion and do not necessarily express the perspective of the agency.


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