Mar 10, 2009
During this season of Lent we have all chosen something from which to fast. Whether we have given up naps, television, snacks, or in my case, Doritos, we do so in order to rid ourselves of some comfort or crutch in our lives. As a result of the deprivation, we are left with space for Christ’s love and a new perspective based in the reality of the necessity of His love in our lives.
While reflecting upon this tradition, I couldn’t help but wonder what my ultimate "crutch" is. It certainly is not Doritos, or my big papasan chair, but something that affects my entire life, not only when I’m hungry, bored or tired. I realized that the biggest crutch we can have in our lives is one of “control” – specifically the constant control of our lives now and in the future. This control can manifest itself in many forms. It can be a constant control of the outward self in order to avoid feeling vulnerable or inadequate, a control of other people, or a control of the future self. Today, I want to focus on the future self, since, as college students, we are currently preparing for our future careers and vocations.
This type of control is tricky because it is manifested in good things. These can be practices such as lining up a summer internship, a job after graduation, aspiring for a certain career and signing up for classes accordingly, making future plans with a serious boyfriend or girlfriend and any other sort of "planning ahead" strategy. All of these things are virtuous and in fact should be done. However, they must not be done alone. Our plans should be a result of dialogue with Jesus – and once those plans are made, they must not be considered unchangeable. Christ will continue to act on our hearts in His own, sometimes inconvenient, time.
This means we must allow much flexibility in our view of the future. When we are asked what we are doing next year, the sometimes cliché remark: "God-willing" should always follow our answers. It need not necessarily be spoken, but it must be in our hearts. This thought, that our plans are not always His plans, is tremendously scary if we do not know how to trust in His love for us and knowledge of what will truly make us happy. Obtaining such trust is a learning experience. It involves reminding ourselves that God has a life much more exciting and romantic than one we could ever plan ourselves.