Jun 20, 2012
Father’s Day was celebrated last Sunday, but fatherhood remains a timely topic. From the womb and early infancy, every child deserves to be reared by a mother and father (or surrogates) who put them first. The parents’ unconditional and selfless love is committed to making the lives of their children meaningful. The best clinical statistics show that young adults with a mom and dad do much better than in other arrangements. Man, woman, and children form the indispensable nucleus of society, and Catholic families have been accorded the title, “the Domestic Church.”
The problem of disintegrating families and that of the disappearing father have been sadly thrust into other crises that further darken the culture. Father-loss is grave, even alarming. While super-dads exceed our expectations, families increasingly suffer from derelict, absentee fathers. In more than seventy percent of its programming, television and movies consistently portrays fathers as stupid, uninvolved, incompetent, and superfluous. Or, fathers have abandoned their families. According to the weight of social sciences, nearly half of all babies born today are born out of wedlock. Nearly half of our children live without their fathers, and half of these do not see their fathers. A disposable father disrupts the family and wreaks havoc on its order.
President Obama, who was raised for the most part without the presence of a father, has urged fathers to take responsibility for their vocation. In increasing numbers, boys are being raised by women. Children live with their mothers in situations with live-in but itinerant male companions. Let it be said that no woman, married or unmarried, should live with an abusive man.