"One way Ross Douthat described the Benedict Option is that it's kind of like a ratchet effect of going one step beyond whatever you're doing now, and I like that description," Libresco said. While she would see her Christian friends for coffee after Mass, "we might talk about the sermon, but there we were, friends not praying with each other."
"So for me some of that ratchet effect is just when I'm with a Christian friend, I ask if there's anything if I can pray for them for, or ask if they could pray for me, or ask if they'd like to pray together. It's just like one small notch more in being generous and vulnerable with each other than you're doing by default," she said.
In her book, Libresco addresses in practical ways just about every fear or hesitation one could have in event-hosting. House too small? Don't know what to cook to feed the masses? Don't want to cook to feed the masses? Don't know what kinds of things to do or pray together? Libresco has you covered.
"The book is meant to be very detailed," Libresco said. "For people who think, 'I just don't know if it's possible for me,' I hope they'll look at the chapters that are kind of explicitly labeled as a cheat sheet. I think there's something there that you can adapt no matter what your circumstances are."
Libresco said she has planned and hosted a variety of Benedict-Option-style events, with some of them being less explicitly Christian, such as a resume and cover letter writing night, and others very explicitly Christian, such as a rosary procession with Marian icons around Central Park to celebrate the new feast of Mary, Mother of the Church.
Asked how the people of Central Park reacted to the unusual procession, Libresco laughed: "I live in New York City, I am never ever the weirdest thing that anyone sees."
When planning Benedict Option events, Libresco said she just makes sure she is up front with her friends about what will be occurring at the event, such as prayer or a Marian procession, so that no one is surprised and those who are uncomfortable can opt out of any activities in which they would not like to participate.
"I think it makes sense to not limit [these events] to only one category, that you make some broader for all of your friends and you can have some that are more specific," Libresco said. "We have board game nights, and not all my friends want to come play board games, and that's fine, and I don't think that means that I exclude or dislike those friends."
One of the biggest things Libresco has learned in event-planning is to make events specific. It makes them special, and less skippable, if you're having dinner for the feast of St. Dominic, rather than having dinner on a Wednesday night, she said.
"It makes it rare so that people aren't just like, 'Well I could do dinner, I could not, it's ultimately replaceable.' No it's not, it's a feast, it's once a year. If you're free, come, if not, you're waiting until next year," she said.
The biggest mistake one could make reading Libresco's book is to think of it as a dogmatic, ultimate answer to the problem of community, she said.
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"The goal was not to hand you a best event or best practices completely in a box and you just implement it at people," she said. "The question is how do you leave room for your friends to meet their needs, to leave room for the Holy Spirit, and I think that's the main thing, there are many ways to love our friends," she noted.
"The more programmatic it feels... the more any of it feels like it is dogmatism about exactly how to throw a dinner party, the more you've gone round the twist a little bit."
Her hope, Libresco said, is that she provides some concrete and practical tips and encouragement for her readers, who then put down their books and invite people over.
"Set yourself a three-week deadline, and do something with someone, take some small chance that you wouldn't have otherwise taken during that period of time," she said.
"And that could be a larger thing like inviting people over to watch 'Of Gods and Men', about martyred vowed religious, or maybe it's that you who feel nervous about being Christian in public and so you pray the rosary [in public]. Do one more thing, take that ratchet step, be generous with your faith and leave room for the Holy Spirit to prompt you to give what other people need in those three weeks after you start reading the book."