Sep 26, 2011
Tom and Rose came into my office looking tired and frustrated. Both were overwhelmed with life’s responsibilities – Tom with his job and Rose with the home. They also seemed to be having trouble with their four children. Their kids were misbehaving at home and at school and their grades were suffering. They felt as if their family was falling apart.
With a family such as this, the first question I ask is, “How many nights a week do you sit down as a family for meals?” Tom and Rose looked sheepishly at each other and then responded “one, maybe two.” When I asked why this was, they went through a whole list of reasons – Tom was working late, Rose had church meetings, the kids had sports practices, games, music lessons, etc. Their busy lives were taking a toll on family life and some serious changes needed to be made.
I recommended they change their schedules so that the entire family could sit down to evening meals at least four nights a week and at least one breakfast on the weekend. Naturally, both looked at me as if I were crazy. Neither could see how they could possibly give up any of their activities. With today being “Family Day--A Day to Eat Dinner with Your Children” (an initiative sponsored by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse), it is a good time to outline these 9 reasons why family meals are vital:
1. Family meals bring families together. When families become too busy, it is impossible for members to have healthy relationships. We all desire close-knit families. Bringing the family together for meals can foster this.